Tuesday, April 8, 2008

pussy power


I'm a big fan of Ewan McGregor, he makes me come over all teenage. I was really entertained by his Long Way Round documentary, and Charlie Boorman was sweet too, being from Annamoe and having the cutest voice, I love the ways he says his name, 'Cho-lay'.

But while my husband and I were watching the series, we were struck repeatedly by the amount of WHINGING the pair of them did, right from the start. We thought it was perhaps the editing, that for other programmes they were putting in all the big upheavals and we were only seeing the fallout.

But I got the book in the recycling recently and it's exactly the same. All this bitching and moaning and reproof and resentment, then making it up again, and analysing why they were moaning in the first place. Crying in their helmets.

Don't get me wrong, I too would have been crying in my helmet if I'd gone through what they'd gone through. And getting stressed and arguing. But I'm a girl: Cowboy Up, lads!

And this made me reevaluate whether we really want our men to be sensitive and communicative. Perhaps that's not so good at all! Perhaps I'd rather if they could just deal and make decisions and get on with it without too much cerebral activity after all.

It reminded me of my husband's story of his stag weekend (yes, weekend) in Edinburgh. The first night there, they had dinner in an Italian close to the hotel, it was shite, they said they wouldn't go back there again. And it hit me, that if there had been women there, it would have been so different. there would have been lots of conversation about it, and regret, and how it had been a waste of one night, and why did you leave a tip, and above all, if only, I wish we hadn't gone there, the other place looked nicer etc etc etc. Not simply, 'we won't go back there again'.

It made me think that we have quite a lot to learn from men.

And then along come Ewan and Charlie, intelligent, funny, sexy, articulate family men, the kind we like. In touch with themselves. And they're a pair of whingey pussies, basically!

It sends me back to something I've always maintained (in honour of Midge's FILTHY post), alongside my wish for my husband to talk to me more: sometimes all a girl needs is to have someone come up and take her roughly from behind.

20 comments:

Alleged Comedian said...

because actors have to summon up emotion on demand, they tend to be a little "highly strung" and "difficult" sometimes coming over as complete "cunts"

McGregor is a luvvie of the highest order, it's like Kenneth Branagh died for nothing (he's still alive? oh buggah!)

WIth regard to being taken roughly, I will say what I havealways believed; sex is dirty and wrong and can leave an awful mess in the confession box.

Peadar said...

I don't know what do say other than I read your post and I'll be back

jothemama said...

Thanks, Peadar! I'll warn you though, there's a lot of talk about woman's things and complaining about husbands on here :)

Someone Living said...

Lured me in with the title, didn't disappoint Jo ;)

But seriously though, what did you expect? We're all a bit soft in the 21st century.

jothemama said...

I don't know about that. Plenty aren't that soft.

I don't mean the brick slinging or wife beating types, but there are plenty of men out there who don't articulate their feeling, or cry, or discuss decisions at every turn.

As my cousin said of her (lovely) husband - 'You're my HUSBAND, talk to me, tell me how you're feeling! I mean, who else are you going to tell?' And I heartily empathised, except now I'm not so sure, I think I'll encourage my husband to be monosyllabically taciturn if it means he can be brave and practical and like a MAN compared to these two. Who I still like, I just don't want to hang round with them any more!

PattheRat said...

Spent the first night of his stag in an Italian restaurant. He did in his bollix.
More like got turfed out of a lap dancing club and told never to come back.

jothemama said...

Now listen, lads, manly is one thing, but don't come lowering the tone by Twenty-Majoring it all over the place with your nasty language.

This is a ladies' blog, you know.

jothemama said...

Nice to see you, though.

PattheRat said...

Ok I'll try my best.
Nice page though! It's a bit too nice for the like of me. It nearly smells of flowers and perfume.
I'll check in from time to time though to keep in touch with yous mad yokes (women that is) way of thinking.

Edel said...

Hi Jo, just saying hello re: your post on Sinead's blog :).
edel.

Midget Wrangler said...

Hey, Congrats on a post deserving of a filthy Badge! And it's not just cos you mentioned me.... but that could work, if anyone else in interested!

kisses!

Alleged Comedian said...

without lowering the tone (again - apologies for the "c" word) theproblem with trying to get someone like Ewan to take you roughly from behind is when he stands there ponderously muttering "But what is one's motivation for this scene?" as if a willing arse in the air was not encouragement (and direction) enough.

I was going to do a wordplay on Dir-ection but I thought it would be seen as bad taste, so I didn't

Until just then...ooops

jothemama said...

No way, I reckon Ewan's straight in there. I refuse to believe he's not the money in the bedroom.

And he'd like to chat about it afterwards... though perhaps he'd prefer to discuss his own performace, and might sulk if you didn't applaud.

Thriftcriminal said...

Correct, they are a pair of wussbags. Ray Mears would have walked it and commented that it was a pity there was so much civilisation around to spoil the view.

jothemama said...

Ray Mears is funny. Still, a good man to have around in a crisis. You've got to give Ewan props for being able to eat the testicle soup though.

His Girl Friday said...

hahaha...enjoyed the post, and the comments! :)

emordino said...

> Cowboy Up, lads!

If I was of a mind to be giving out badges, you would be totally receiving the Sawyer Award right now.

Speaking of perfume ads that Josh Holloway is involved with, check out Ewan's effort for Davidoff. Raar.

jothemama said...

Oo, I don't know, the scarf is a bit wanky!

John Power: said...

Yeah I definatley think that women like men to be men - despite constant attempts by the media and various academics etc. to make men and women the same.

I'm not trying to be sextist or anything but sometimes it seems that some women really thrive on the things that annoy them about men (i.e being uncommunicative, distant, flippant etc.)

A lot of women definition like bad boys. Hugh Grant can buy chocolates and come across vunerable and wimpish all he likes, but that isn't what works in my experience.

I'm not a horrible person by the way:)

jothemama said...

That doesn't sound horrible. It may be that we women are a bit conflicted.

I suspect we want it all...