Thursday, November 27, 2008

crabs or babs?

On my Flickr account, I can see the most recent photos of my cousin and my friend. One one there is a (completely non graphic) photo of labour and a birth, her husband lifting a just born baby onto my laughing cousin's chest. Beneath it there's a picture of a big giant crab on ice and crab bits on plates.

Which one appeals to you? The first makes me cry, the second makes me feel barfy. I don't eat seafood, and crabs look like spiders. But it occurred to me in my distaste, that plenty of people might react completely the other way round.

9 comments:

morgor said...

I wouldn't be too keen on either to be honest. Not that fond of sea-insects I mean seafood myself.

Martin said...

when you said crabs, 'just below'....

Jo said...

Who said 'just below'? And I believe the tag acknowledges the whole pubic lice issue... bleh.

Compulsive Cook said...

My bad! or rather, my crab. What awful juxtapositioning!

Although I see where you're coming from with the tearing up at the birth pic, I wouldn't myself want to share such a private thing. It would make me feel voyeuristic.

And obviously the crab makes my mouth water. Does that count as the reverse?

Anonymous said...

I'm not that hot on the idea of births being filmed or photographed. I think it's a memory best kept in the head. I'm not speaking from experience but I don't think everything needs to recorded repeat viewing. Births are of course amazing but maybe too amazing and beyond the scope of a photo or mpg to do them justice.

I'm a bit old fashioned like that.

And crabs, meh.

Jo said...

Except your memories of birth fade and shift. Your perspective changes, and what made you laugh with joy and triumph can make you cry miserably later.

Also, in labour, things seem so different, you're really in a trippy place, and wat seems one way is not as it is, exactly.

My friend said she ideod her last birth, just for her self and her husband to watch, and she couldn't believe how different she was to how she felt in teh moment - she said for her it made her feel strong, and proud of her self.

For me, while I was pushing my daughter out for 45 minutes, I never felt so weak and helpless and incapable and exhausted in my life, but what my husband and midwife saw was muscles I never knew I had standi out on my back, they saw someone looking strong. I would have liked a record of that, to view as I wished.

I have video of me and my daughter and baby in the pool after the birth, and I'm glad I have it, because I can't remember as well as I"d like, I'm glad to have a record. I haven't watched it but I'm glad it's there if I want.

His Girl Friday said...

yep, that was me that saw pregnant woman and er, unwanted critters...

I do wish I had some video or even pics of my three. I've only the just before, and the just after. ah well. :)

MartyBanana said...

It's good that memories of labour and birth fade, otherwise my wife and I would only have one child.

After each birth my wife has said "I am never doing that again."

She has given birth six times now.

Jo said...

Ha, I said exactly that directly after my first - but it was completely different the second time, and I WISH I could do it it six times now.
Six pregnancies would finish me off though - more power to her!