for texting, maybe more...

Relatively soon after my grandmother died, my grandfather met a significantly younger woman (ten years older than my mother, I think) through personal ads. Her husband had left her for the gay life, and she'd placed an ad. She told me she'd liked his letter best, but didn't reply because of the age difference. But then her other would be suitors didn't impress, and she wrote back.

They ended up having a long, passionate, affectionate marriage. I think my mother and her sisters found it strange to see the man who would communicate what he wanted at the table by pointing and grunting, wander hand holding into the sunset. I wrote before about the revelation my step-grandmother shared with my at my aunt's funeral about how I'd come looking for them on their post-honeymoon visit, and how they were actually having sex in the hay at the time. Now that's frisky.

But anyway, it worked out for them (though he died a few years ago in his mid eighties and she misses him horribly... but she's still getting two international-tour holidays a year, so I suppose there are compensations).

And these days, the internet is the place to meet people, so personal ads don't necessarily sound so odd anymore... except, I just read one. In the Irish Times.

SINGLE, 39 yr old male, tall, dark, blue eyes, muscular, honest, romantic, seeks slim-medium female for texting, maybe more.


Meheh. Sigh. If only I was slim-medium, I could avail of the delights of a text exchange with a muscular, honest man... maybe more!

I looked at the women's one, and this caught my eye,

BLACK female, easygoing, caring, lovely, seeks similar man who knows what it is to love.

Oo. Doesn't that sound much more appealing? I wonder if she's slim to medium...


I know the rationale behind 'for friendship, maybe more' makes sense. It basically says, I'm not just looking for a shag, lets test the waters. Obviously. But doesn't the guarded suggestion of 'maybe nothing more than texting' just seem a little over cautious? Commitment issues, much? I mean, it's a big jump to  answer a personal ad. If all you're going to get out of it is a text message or two, I'm not sure it would be worth it.

Yup. Romantic potential.

Still. Good luck to 'em.