Pregnancy induced insomnia! Another complaint

In fairness to my husband, he doesn't go out often. The problem I have is that when he does, he leaves the house about 5 or 6pm, then gets home at 5am, and so is gone for a full twelve hours - then there's the further ten hours he needs to sleep it off, and the hangover that will last into the following evening.

I admit it's slightly sour grapes on my part, as I don't really get the opportunity to go out and when I do, it's never a four in the morning kind of thing! My life is tame, but the H has lots of friends in their twenties...

My biggest problem is that I never know when he's going to come home, but I'm very aware, as I sleep, that when he does he will smell of booze and cigarettes, and will fall into a snoring, stinky stupor when he gets to bed - this wouldn't be so much of a problem if I could just stay asleep - but I wake up every hour or less, checking the time, checking to see if he's there, and just being wakeful. And at the moment my hip is at me, I'm so uncomfortable anyway... I rang him at 4.30 to ask him to sleep downstairs, just so I could stop anticipating his arrival (how stupid is it to sit awake, worrying about being woken up?) but it still took ages to get back to sleep.

And then, with her usual weekend perversity, Cassia woke up at 7.15 - despite the fact that I have to drag her out of bed at 8.10 on school mornings...

I'm knackered!

And as a postscript, the whole family has to deal with The Hangover - the party doesn't stop on Saturday night, it necessitates sleeping in til the afternoon, being too wrecked to go swimming or to the birthday party as planned, despite my daughter's pleas.

Is it me or is this just selfish? Do mothers do this? Or if they do, are they not seen as skanky, unfit mothers? Why is it ok for men to behave this way?

I don't get to celebrate my birthday but he can go on random benders and use it as an excue to avoid spending time with his family? I think men should have to sarifice the type of nights ou they have just as much as women should, unless it's a special occasion...