Thursday, August 28, 2008

summer evening

A sunny day, a sunny evening, can be such a blessing. I was going to bring the kids to the park this evening, but it took the cheesecakes longer than anticipated to bake (and it took me longer than anticipated to get off the computer and in to the kitchen, so we left it pretty late, and I was worrying about dinner, and exchanging the wrong eggs I got in Tesco, and traffic on the way home. So when Olivia suggested going to the beach, where we've been about twice this rainy summer, it was perfect.

I didn't bring swimming things, unfortunately. I popped the trousies off Bodhi and he made a speedy beeline for the water. When he tried to sit down in it, I took his nappy off, and then he crawled straight for the waves and got his tshirt wet, so that was that. He was so happy! Loved it - his first time in the sea proper, as he was so chesty all this year.

Olivia went in in her pants and made a friend, as she does. A 7 year old girl and her four year old brother, who was an angelic, curly haired kid, with big blue eyes and dark hair. He kept coming up and delightedly, excitedly telling the woman with him how lovely it all was, how much fun. I felt the same. I chatted to their minder, who was laughing at Bodhi's waterbaby antics.

She told me she had looked after them since he was born - premature, and their mother died giving birth to him. So tragic. He's alright, but the little girl still gets sad and misses her mother.
The woman minding them was sweet - she said she'd been there since he was a baby. I wondered how she could ever leave, and instantly found myself having Jack and Sarah type fantasies about her marrying the rich, heartbroken father. My brain always struggles to try and make it alright, I suppose. I want the pain to not be true.

I felt motivated to set up a playdate, make friends, but then I hesitated - was it some sort of trite pity for the motherless babes, or the minder who was raising them that made me want to do it? But on the way home Olivia asked if we could go see them again, and as their minder told me their address when I asked where they lived, I think I might send a card seeing if they'd care to meet.

That poor family.

Still, I was meant to be talking about my blissful seaside evening. They lent us a towel, I had a jumper for my shivering babe, we got an icecream - I had to go get the car, and parked it in front of the ice cream shack. Bodhi sucked his thumb while Olivia and I got our respective icecreams (malteser/lemon sorbet) and a mini vanilla for Bodhi. When I came to his window carrying it, his finger shot out and pointed at it and he made an almost cartoon surprised face. Punctuation mark eyebrows and mouth, so cute!

I was reminded of being on the beach in Frances and getting glaces from the sellers on the beach with their little carts. Chocolat and citron for me every time.

I hope we get a few more weeks of an Indian summer. We deserve it! And Bodhi's only one once...

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Jo you good thing, kiss the joys. It might get better and how lucky would you be then.

Anonymous said...

Nobody wanted a taxi today, they were that happy.

I probably drove past you about 57 times today.

Jo said...

Poor Kate! You just have to cruise the strip? We don't get taxis often but I must get your number for when we do.

Anonymous said...

love spontaneous summer pleasures! we went to the beach with friends of ours and their 2 year old, he was so amazingly happy to be dipping his feet!

Lottie said...

That's so sad!

There's a very sad situation down at home at the moment. A neighbour fell into a coma after giving birth to her second child. They are basically waiting for her to pass away now so this lovely new little baby will grow up with such an awful legacy.

tina said...

Oh dear, that's so tragic. :(
I'm terrified of childbirth...

Jo said...

No, Tina, no! Lottie's story, they don't know the particulars of the other.

Take it form some one who's had two homebirths, there isn't reason to be terrified of birth. God, I'd do it again in a flash if I was wealthy and didn't have to be pregnant first :)

Think about it this way - far more people get killed crossing the road in Ireland. Crossing the road can be dangerous. But you still do it calmly every day, right? Don't buy in to all this modern, medicalised fear-of-birth culture, it's crap.

tina said...

You're right, Jo, it's a very rare thing to happen these days. I just worry about everything!
My friend too had a homebirth, she didn't even have any pain relief, other than homeopathic stuff!

Jo said...

Water, water is where it's at. And homoepathic stuff. And acupressure, if you have someone who knows how.

I'm not saying there's not a time and a place for the epidurals, but if we had more of the latter, there would be far less birth complication. The hospital themselves tell us this. But there's money in induction and epidurals for them. And they don't have the space to give women time to labour easily.