Saturday, March 9, 2013

well put, Oprah

Forgiveness does not mean you have to accept the person back into your life. It does not mean you are condoning their behavior or that you are in any way saying that it was “ok.” Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different so you don’t hold on to wishing that you had a different kind of family. You let that go, and you move forward with the Grace that God has given you from this day on. I don’t want the spirit of me to die because of what you did.
Oprah, 2-8-11

I don't so much love the way the date on this makes it looks like a bible quote, but I think she says this v well. 

Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering. When you become good at the art of letting suffering go, then you’ll come to realize how unnecessary it was to drag those burdens along with you. You’ll see that no one other than you was responsible. The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival.
Buddhist Teaching  (via elige)
A festival! I do like that idea. I think I'm still a loooong way from understanding how to use this knowledge though. I wish there was an app... 


Anonymous said...

I just clicked on your link from Ms. Moon's page. I've never read your blog before. I am glad I did. The two quotes are things that are good reminders for me. Funny about the app too. Sweet Jo

Jo said...

Hey Sweet Jo :)

Ms. Moon said...

I don't believe in that forgiveness shit. Forgive me- but I don't. I think when you get into it on that Oprah level that what you're talking about is not forgiveness any more. It's something else.
That's my opinion.
I mean, I will and have forgiven a lot of things but some things I will never forgive and if I said I did, I'd be a lying dog. Doesn't mean I have to constantly let them nag at me but some things are just unforgivable and it's not my job to say they are.

Jo said...

Oh, I think that's a really good point about it being something else that she's describing. That idea does sit very well with me.